March 31, 2011

2nd Child Syndrome


Pretty flowers in a clutter free room.
Neither have survived.

When I hit the 20 week half way mark of this pregnancy a few weeks ago, my sweet friend Carrie sent me some flowers to celebrate. She had done this same thing when I was pregnant with Luke. Recieving these flowers the second time, it put into sharp contrast just how different life is now and how priorities have shifted. That first time, I remember getting home from a long Saturday teaching swim lessons all morning, and spending all afternoon at IKEA, with a car full of boxes that would become the nursery room furniture, to find these beautiful flowers waiting for me. This time, I had Luke on my hip, my pajamas still on, and a messy den full of toddler destruction behind me when the flower guy showed up.
Looking back now, I'm amazed at how on top of things we were with getting the nursery ready. By 20 weeks, we had dismantled our spare room, painted the room, installed the chair rail, and had half the furniture assembled. By comparison, at 20 weeks into this pregnancy, I have done....absolutely nothing to get ready for this baby. It makes me feel really guilty to admit that. It's obviously not an indication of how we feel about Baby #2, but it's hard not to compare.
My problem is two-fold. First, I know that we basically have everything we need (except for some of those adorable tiny diapers) in our house already. Granted, a lot of it needs to be washed, sorted, and unpacked from the garage...but at least it is here. This is a big perk of having a 2nd boy at practically the same time of year as the 1st. So far, my nesting instinct has not manifested itself in feeling the need to get to this sorting task, but I trust that it will come in a manic phase one day.
Secondly, we can't decide what to do about Luke's sleeping arrangement. Should we convert our guest room into his "big boy room" and leave the nursery as is for the new baby? Do we leave Luke's room as his room, and just move the "baby" stuff over to the guest room? Should we let him stay in the crib or should we buy a toddler bed (or is a toddler bed a waste of money and we should just go ahead and get a regular twin?{Also, if we lose our guest room, what will we do with Grandparents and friends? Should we get a bed with a pop-up trundle or something equally as handy?} )? If he stays in his crib, do we get another crib for Baby #2 or do we just get a bassinet to tide us over until Luke is ready to give up the crib?

SO MANY QUESTIONS.

I have no idea what the answer is to any of them. Luke is a pretty good sleeper these days, and he is really easy to put down. I'm afraid that will go away if he has the ability to get out of bed by himself. I really don't want to buy another crib, though. I also hate the idea of doing any kind of transition for Luke after the baby comes because I have a feeling my sleep-deprived self will not tolerate the transition any better than he will. So, how early is too early to try sleeping in a bed for a toddler? If you go for it and it doesn't work, what do you do?

Being a middle child myself, I know that these things will work themselves out and we won't be scarring anyone for life if we take a while to get this right. It would be nice, however, if there were cut and dried rules for how to make these kinds of transitions.

Also, speaking of transitions: potty training. My list of questions/deliberating on this one is twice as long as this whole bed thing. Sigh. It's always going to be something, isn't it?

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